A lot of times I followed these advices. Sometimes I did not.
And there’s something I find very interesting about how people approach a coach or a consultant.
And that is that often they pay for advices they won’t follow.
They trust you, the pay you good money, they respect you BUT eventually they will do the wrong thing. The exact one they had in their mind before they called you.
Sometime you’ll have the suspect they called you only to hear that what they thought was right.
As coach and consultant, this often happens to me.
And what I learned from this is that you can’t prevent people you coach from doing wrong things. And this is true for students, executives or house-keepers as for the entrepreneur, no matter what is their education or how much money they earn.
Literally, they have to go through this.
Usually people think that when they pay someone for advice they’re only looking for informations – they want to know something that they still don’t know. They think that you give them the right informations, they apply them ad they get results.
It doesn’t work this way. Never.
Because what people really want is to be guided in a process that brings them to see things they didn’t see and understand before.
Once they can see what you see and understand from your experience, they can also understand the solution you want to provide them.
This is the reason why coaching is NEVER only a matter or of techniques or theory.
NLP, Coaching, any other change or personal-development techniques are useless if the coach does not have gained the experience of it in the right, real life contexts.
You cannot earn the coaching diploma and start coaching people. Before, you have to learn how to apply the coaching techniques you learnt in your environment and get results with them.
The same results you claim you’re able to generate for the people you coach.
You must embody the techniques you teach, and it’s very different from studying in the classroom and sell them to your clients.
This is the reason why I suggest to my students that want to work in the coaching/consulting arena… that it’s better for them beginning to coach people in contexts they know very well and where they have a lot of experience and are already successful.
If you’re a good musician and want to do coaching… start coaching musicians
If you’re a good lawyer and want to do coaching… start coaching lawyers
If you’re a good executive and want to do coaching, coach executives.
If you want begin to work as a coach, you have to start coaching with people who have problems you know very well… and that you already solved for you. Something you’re expert about… something in which you earned a lot of experience…
Before coaching other people, you must be in a position from where you can see the path other people must do to get where you are.
Coaching is ONLY the instrument to bring them there. But you MUST have the experience of being arrived there before.
Being a coach, to me, is an ending point for successful people in their area. Not a pleasant alternative for who has never been a star in his job.